Crisis is a personal word, defined by what you fear most. People have varying thresholds for crisis as you can easily observe. One person has a flat tire and is late for an important meeting, and that is a "crisis". They fret and swear and become difficult with the very people they need to help them solve the problem. Another person muses on fate and makes a late entrance with fabulous stories about their adventure.
Unfortunately, whatever your personal crisis, at whatever level of complexity and fear you operate, you will have a tendency to become very self absorbed. You may be unaware or completely insensitive to the fact that others are not in your crisis with you. They may see your "crisis" as relatively minor and wonder why you are having such a reaction. You may want them to react with a level of understanding, compassion, and intensity that you are feeling.
Slow down. Try to be objective and determine if this is really a crisis or simply a life changing event that can be maximized for its potential. Try to see yourself through the eyes of others and whether they might find your responses overkill for their perception of the issues.
AND, most importantly, as you take the time to understand this situation, spend the time to understand the issue from the point of view of others who are involved as well. Be very sure that you do not appear to be reacting from such a place of self that you are not inadvertently stepping on the feelings and needs of others.
Always remember that your crises are highly integrated into your belief systems about what matters, what is threatening and what is real in the world. When you find yourself immersed in the meaning of crisis, it is often productive to pull back and view it from a distance. Maybe it is not a crisis but a natural outcome of a life's journey toward some goal that you have not yet figured out.
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