No No's of Passive Aggressive, Controlling Behaviors

Do you know when you are being controlling? It is usually true that you are being controlling if you are obsessed about the outcome needing to be your way. Generally people use all sorts of tactics and techniques in order to force the answer to their specifications. No matter how smooth you are, controlling behavior is a sign of bad leadership and insecurity.

In other words, you are using information that you possess to force this person into acknowledging your prowess or mistrusting their own.

You might want to identify your objective in doing so. Just what are you trying to accomplish when you demean someone else?

Perhaps you have decided that the other person needs to hear the hard truth. Possibly you believe yourself to be the person to tell them. So that? So that they listen to you and you can control the situation? So you can force them to focus on their shortcomings instead of on the issue at hand?

Be sure you know your own motives when you pursue such a path. If your path/plan has merit, you should be able to convince them without diminishing the other person's worth! If it does not have merit on its own, it is unlikely that you will convince the person by demeaning them. You may get your way, but you have lost their respect!