Your Excuses Will Explain a LOT!

Do you make excuses for why you do not lose weight, change jobs, have better relationships with people? What you say to yourself to explain why something negative is occurring or why you do not change things are often enlightening when you look at them through the eyes of a stranger.

If you start with an assumption that you are NEVER a victim (meaning that no matter what, what is wrong is something you control), you begin to free yourself from your ruts. Remember that you are believing things that keep you in place which may not be true. It may seem easier to be a victim, but in the long term, the consequence is YOUR quality of life.

• I don't feel good enough to exercise. My doctor says that __________ is off in my blood tests, etc. I have a stiff back. I have a sore knee.........
• From the perspective of a stranger: Maybe if you had the will power to exercise, you would actually feel better without all the medications. Perhaps if you found an exercise you could do with a stiff back, sore knee (they do exist), your body would begin to thank you in mysterious ways-like getting better?
• I can't move. My children love their school.
• From the perspective of a stranger: What's to say they won't like the new school. Maybe you are teaching them to resist change as opposed to finding the good things that happen with new circumstances.
•  My mother is ill and in a nursing home. She needs me to be here.
• From the perspective of a stranger: If you or your family is suffering or putting things on hold because of her situation, perhaps you should consider finding a new nursing home close to where you need to be. Cruel? Only if you all are resistant to new experiences or new environments. There are actually people who think change is fun. Mostly it might not matter, but if your life is stuck, think about it!
• I've always done it this way.
• From the eyes of a stranger: And, it isn't working.  
• I can't......
• From the eyes of a stranger: "I won't...."
• I'll do it, but I am not ready.
• From the eyes of a stranger: You don't want to do it. You care more about whatever you are getting from this situation than you care about the quality of your own life.  

Look around you. How much better would you like your life to be? What are you doing to make it that way and what are you doing to keep it just like it is????